Domestic Violence Checklist

[Emily]

Domestic Violence

Symptoms of Abuse - Threats; Power Misuse; and Control


What symptoms below fit your life?

Using Emotional Abuse

• Putting the other person down
• Making the other person feel bad about themselves
• Calling the other person names
• Making the other person think they are crazy
• Playing mind games
• Humiliating the other person
• Making the other person feel guilty

Using Privileges

• Treating the other person like a servant
• Making all the big decisions
• Acting like the master of the castle
• Being the one who determines the roles

Using Economic Abuse

• Preventing the other person from getting or keeping a job
• Making the other person ask for money
• Giving the other person an allowance
• Taking the other person's money
• Not letting the other person know about or have access to family income

Using Coercion and Threats

• Making or carrying out threats to do something to hurt the other person
• Threatening to leave the other person, to commit suicide, report the other person to welfare
• Making the other person drop charges
• Making the other person do illegal things

Using Intimidation

• Making the other person afraid by using looks, gestures, or actions
• Smashing things
• Abusing pets
• Displaying weapons

Using Children

• Making the other person feel guilty about the children
• Using the children to relay messages
• Using visitation to harass the other person
• Threatening to take the children away

Using Isolation

• Controlling what the other person does, who they see and talk to, what's read, and where they go
• Limiting their outside involvement
• Using jealousy to justify actions

Minimizing, Denying, Blaming

• Making light of the abuse and not taking the other person's concerns about it seriously
• Saying the abuse never happened
• Shifting responsibility for abusive behavior
• Saying the other person caused it

HAS ANY OF THE FOLLOWING EVER HAPPENED TO YOU?

Does your partner:

Blame everyone else especially you, for his or her mistakes?
Yes___ No___

Prevent you from seeing your family or friends?
Yes___ No___

Curse you, say mean things, mock you or humiliate you?
Yes___ No___

Force you to have sex or force you to engage in sex that makes you feel uncomfortable?
Yes___ No___

Restrain, hit, punch, slap, or kick you?
Yes___ No___

Intimidate or threaten you?
Yes___ No___

Ever prevent you from leaving the house, getting a job, or continuing your education?
Yes___ No___

If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship.


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